How to turn your passion into a career and exciting

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Check out the video by Erin May Henry, about turning your passion into a career and exciting.

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My Daily Habits

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As I have grown through the years, now I am 40 years of age I have incorporated some daily habits that set me up through the days, weeks and months.

The first thing I always do is get out of bed and dressed, unless it is the weekend and I allow myself some time just in my PJ’s as I see the weekend as my personal time, where I can do what I want, with the exception I have to look after my son of course he is priority.

The second thing that I incorporate is Youtube, or listening to podcasts in the morning and through out my day, they really help get my motivational juices going and where I get my inspiration for my blogs and books from.

Thirdly going for a walk even if it is to my son’s school and back or through the local park, grab a coffee on the way and let my thoughts roll through my mind.

 

Fourth thing is making my bed, it really does help set up the day and makes sure once I am up, I am up out of bed for good, even though there are still days I may sneak back into bed occasionally, but I still get my work done.

Cleaning the house is important to me too, and having and sort through, potter around putting bits and pieces away, really helps with my days and clear the mind.

Brushing my teeth and exercising at home is also a daily occurrence that I like to add into my days and gets me on the move and stop procrastinating.

Plus planning, without planning I wouldn’t be able to function at all, and is what I do on a daily basis so I know, where I am heading and what needs to be done.

So what your daily habits I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

How to get stuff done when you feel down/Period talk

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Here I am sharing a video by Erin May Henry about how to get stuff done when you feeling down and on your period.

Being on your period you can feel low about yourself and feel like not doing anything. In this video she gives advice on what to do.

My Daily Habits

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As I have grown through the years, now I am 40 years of age I have incorporated some daily habits that set me up through the days, weeks and months.

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The first thing I always do is get out of bed and dressed, unless it is the weekend and I allow myself some time just in my PJ’s as I see the weekend as my personal time, where I can do what I want, with the exception I have to look after my son of course he is priority.

The second thing that I incorporate is Youtube, or listening to podcasts in the morning and through out my day, they really help get my motivational juices going and where I get my inspiration for my blogs and books from.

Thirdly going for a walk even if it is to my son’s school and back or through the local park, grab a coffee on the way and let my thoughts roll through my mind.

Fourth thing is making my bed, it really does help set up the day and makes sure once I am up, I am up out of bed for good, even though there are still days I may sneak back into bed occasionally, but I still get my work done.

Cleaning the house is important to me too, and having and sort through, potter around putting bits and pieces away, really helps with my days and clear the mind.

Brushing my teeth and exercising at home is also a daily occurrence that I like to add into my days and gets me on the move and stop procrastinating.

Plus planning, without planning I wouldn’t be able to function at all, and is what I do on a daily basis so I know, where I am heading and what needs to be done. Check out my Filofax and Planner page on carriesrealworld.com

So what your daily habits I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Building Good Relationships

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I suppose this ties in with my last blog, Feeling like I don’t belong is that it good to build good relationships, and surround yourself with like minded people who get you.

I remember being surrounded by real negative people when working in a call centre and would constantly be complaining and moaning, and it got to the point I found myself doing the same. I had to stop myself.

I kind of settled and gave up on building my dream life for a while.

I was relieved to get away from that. So when I was asked to join another team, I leaped at the chance.

There are people out there that will try and drag you down, just because they are having a bad day, and others that can make you feel on top of the world, and its those people you want to surround yourself with.

Don’t get me wrong, I am sure we all like to have a moan, but not constantly. Finding a good relationship has its honeymoon period, and then dark days, but if you can get through those times then it can continue to be amazing the rest of the time.

Communication for me is the key to a good relationship and being able to compromise.

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Sometimes there is jealousy among friends, I have certainly been guilty of that, but when I have I have faced it and answered, why am I feeling this way?

Do I not want my friends to do well?

YES OF COURSE I DO.

Handling those feelings and again talking about it can really make a relationship stronger and rather than be jealous, think why are they doing so well?

I know they have had more drive than me, settled with their life in a happy way, I have always been looking for something more in my life and different, and still am, but building relationships is also important, and without them I know I could never function like I do, and be determined as I am.

Seeing the drive of those close to me, helps drive me forward and thrive myself.

So find those relationships that make you feel good, and if you do disagree, brush it off and talk, then start again. Relationships need building like houses need foundations, once you have the foundations then you can create something magical, that may last for a long time.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Feeling like you don’t belong

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As a child I often felt like I was odd, unlike my friends and other children I’d come to meet, and it was hard as a child feeling this way. I dreamed about being someone else, not me.

I remember being envious of a certain girl at school called Sherie and she was really pretty and popular, all the girls wanted to hang around her including the boys aswell, and I dreamed of being her, just for one day so I could feel what it was like to feel belonged.

She didn’t have it easy, but when she cried it was a nice cry and gentle, and when she smiled she used to light the room, and so wished that could be me.

Even though she cried a lot because she missed her mum, she instantly found friendship and people wanting to be around her.

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It was only when I started playing football at school I started towards the end of Primary school, I felt like I was accepted, but I still felt like I didn’t belong there and never kept in touch with those friends, once I started secondary school.

I kind of felt I needed to leave that part of life behind me, and start a fresh.

Those feelings of not belonging can be isolating and lonely. When I stopped playing out a lot, I more or less had to start building the relationships I had built up, all over again.

I hid away because I was sick of being picked on, and I was being bullied by the girl who lived the flat right opposite me. She even used my friends to get at me too, and it was hard, I wanted to stay in my shell and not come out again.

Feeling like you don’t belong has its advantages, and I like having my personal space, but I also like to feel part of something. When I took up dancing it took a while, but became part of a group there and for the first time felt some confidence, and I remember I couldn’t wait till Saturday for my dancing school to start again.

Then at Secondary school, after the first year, did have my own group of friends I would hang out with everyday and finally I was part of a group at school. I still found it a struggle at school, but having close friends to support me, did help me and they helped me come out of my shell.

Don’t get me wrong we had fall outs, but didn’t last for long, and I am still friends with those girls now.

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Even now since my son started school, I see all the mums already in there groups talking whilst I wait there to go in. The worse for me to do, is to but into their conversation so I stand back.

The one reason why I blog because I like being part of a community, and embracing the new online world, and I feel like I belong.

When I started going to rugby I felt like I could finally let my hair down, and I had discovered a new sense of freedom that I never had before, and whole new world had opened up for me. That was thanks to one of my friends I had made at secondary school, whom I am still friends with today.

The Rugby years were great and even though at times I felt like the odd one out still because of my own insecurities I did feel like I was part of something truly special. It’s like the theme tune from the American Sitcom Cheers,”Where everybody knows your name”, and that is very important to me.

It is good to feel like you belong as you finally feel like you have found your purpose in life and meeting different kind of people, you learn from others and I try think back to those times to remind myself that I have been part of something and other peoples journey.

It is about coming out of your comfort zone and trying something new. When I started doing fundraising events, found another type of community, one where even though these people didn’t know me from Adam, gave me support as they passed me by anyway, and it really gives you a real boost, and a sense of “I can do this and here I am”.

Belonging is about being accepted for who you are and for what you know you can become.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

New self confidence video/having good and bad days.

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Here is a new video talking about self confidence and what it can be like having good and bad days.

When we lack self confidence we can often feel we having endless bad days more than good and feel like it is the end of the world.

In this video I talk about how you can address those feelings. I hope you enjoy my video and please let me know by filling in the feedback form on my site of what topics you would like me to talk about.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

I find it tough in social situations

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Last Friday I met up with my friends and all was going well, I was telling them about my husband work, and suddenly I felt self conscious, I no idea why, and I began to feel myself stutter and struggling with words.

I have talked about Social Anxiety before in a Christmas blog, check it out in link below:

Social anxiety at Christmas

I suddenly felt aware that I was talking and being looked at whilst I spoke, which is perfectly normal but suddenly felt self conscious and started feeling paranoid because I was worried in case my friends were laughing at me.

This has happened before many times and it has been picked up on by people too, and I suddenly feel mortified and embarrassed, wanting the ground to swallow me up.

Has anyone else had this happen?

What I did after then was kept quiet and listened to my friends speak, and then once I pulled myself together than began to talk some more.

It just feels like someone grabbing my words and muddled them all up in my brain and I have no control over it.

Having social anxiety does really knock my confidence, but I tried to bounce back from those feelings as much as I can, but find they can haunt me now then.

There was a time where I didn’t have those feelings, and came out of shell more, and think was due to atmosphere. I try to think of those times when I felt fully confident and try to be the same person, but I struggle now.

I think I have struggled more as I have gotten older.

Do you suffer from social anxiety?

How do you try to control it?

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

Change your mind change yourself

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Check out this video my Mel Robbins, talking about changing your mind changing yourself.

It really is an inspiring video. She talks about how to organize your day and how to control the mind, so you don’t feel like you have no control.

If you know of some good videos to watch, which talks about the mind I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Creating Unstoppable Self Confidence

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Building self confidence has been something I have had to work on through out my life, and there are times when I feel a massive wave of confidence and some days where I have wanted to just hide away somewhere.

Here is a really great video by Tony Robbins, who talks about Creating Unstoppable Self confidence. See Below:

He talks about self sabotage. I am guilty of doing this myself, constantly criticizing things I do, like when I film for my Youtube channel and that nagging thought of is this good enough?

Why would anyone watch this?

I now listen to it and learned to push it away, and think of the good things I am getting out of filming for example, like I want to share how I clean my home, and things I have bought and how I handle lack of self confidence with others, because I enjoy it and want to build my blogs and Youtube audience, as I want to inform others who share the same interests.

it can be constant battle in your mind when it comes to building self confidence because that inner critic constantly wants to have its say, but learning to answer and handle that critic is the way to building better self confidence.

I would love to hear from you, if you to have had to work on your confidence and what you have done to build your confidence.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X