Taking on Challenges in life

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Life is full of hurdles, we go through some good times and some bad, and it is how you react to the bad times that can help you concentrate on the good.

I have been watching some inspiring videos of those with terminal illnesses, or have been fighting an illness, and I didn’t purposely go to watch these, I came across them via Youtube, and has made me put my own life in perspective.

The first person I started watching was a young lady called Emily Hayward, who was battling with cancer. She sadly lost her life only a couple of weeks ago, but her videos were so uplifting, that you kind of oversaw the illness she was facing. She made you understand what it is like to go through such a battle. She was such a fighter that I think how she came across and lived her life, will live on, and will help those who also fighting illnesses like cancer.

Please check out Emily Hayward Youtube Channel, her vlogs were great to watch and sad they will be no more.

I also came across a lady called Charlotte Eades who had a Brain Tumor. She developed a Youtube Channel not just about her fight with cancer, but her love for beauty, fashion and handbags. She filmed way up until she died, and her family have carried on making videos to help others and helped to raise money to help those with brain tumors, so more research can go into brain related cancer.

I then came across some videos called My Last Days, first one is of a girl named Kat who was battling Gastric Cancer. To warn you some scenes you might find distressing, but wanted to share it, as her story is so inspiring and she has a wonderful surprise at the end, and does something for a little boy whom had leukemia.

Then I came across a girl named Claire Wineland, who also has a Youtube channel. See her story below.

Life is full of challenges, but seeing things from someone else eyes can really help you face those challenges, not allow them to predict how you feel.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

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Supporting someone with Depression and seven ways to stop caring so much on of what other people think

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If you know someone who is suffering with depression, read this article below which gives tips on how to support someone with depression. It can effect everyone, not just the person who is suffering but those around someone with depression too.

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What about when it is worrying continuously on what other people think, here’s an article which gives seven ways to stop caring about what other people think.

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It can feel like we are continuously being judged at times, but the best way to deal with it, is to rise above it all and don’t let what others think drag you down, just find out who you are and be true to yourself.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Coping with Stress

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How do handle stress? I stress all the time, like today I was worried in case I didn’t meet my friend on time today or if I would get back home in time to pick up my son from nursery. I realized that I had nothing to worry about, as I got there and back from my destination with no problems at all and even had time to spare.

I read this article which details about how some people handle stress, I found this as a useful tool should I stress out again.

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How so you cope with stress?  I would love to  hear, as it always good to get advice from others.

Many thanks for reading.

 

Carrie X

Dealing with Anxiety

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Check out this article I came across which talks about how to handle Anxiety.

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If you suffer with anxiety then the technique it describes may be of help to  you.

Let me know how you cope with anxiety and what techniques you have tried.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Finding Peach and Mind, get inspired

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Sometimes I have to admit that on certain days I do get so overwhelmed that all I want to do is crawl up into a ball and just disappear.

Being parent I find can add to those feelings, as much as being parent it is rewarding too. There are sometimes no space for me to scream out “Don’t do this”.

So finding peace of mind can really help. The one thing that always brings me peace of mind in an instant is music, I couldn’t live without it, it has been my thing I have loved and given me escapism all the time, when times were tough.

It is important I feel to have peace of mind, just to breath in and  breath out, and switch off from the everyday pressures that I  have faced.

Here are some tunes that bring me peace of mind at the moment.

I love these types of tunes as they instantly help ease the mind and let feel at peace with myself, and I fill that is important to gain control of the mind. There have been times where I have lost control and when that happens you can end up in a very dark place in your mind.

Listening to some chill out music can be empowering aswell as giving peace of mind.

As soon as I hear it, it makes me stand still and take moment to just listen to my breathing and switch to my positive and empowering side of the mind.

So if you are stressing out find you peace of mind, whatever helps whether it is in music or getting fit, peace of mind is what we all need at times.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Inspiration board

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Get yourself a notebook, or a piece of card or pin board, and put everything from pictures, to articles to video clips that inspire you, as this can help with anxiety and feelings of depression.

It is good to have a focus. I want to create my inspiration board for this blog, as there are videos and stories, I have come across through Youtube and books that have inspired me and could inspire you too.

I support mental health 100% because I have had mental health problems too, and can effect anybody, whether they are a millionaire to someone living on the streets, and can effect us at any point. Sometimes it may not be for one reason, but for many reasons.

I found this video on Youtube, by Tulisa, who was part of a band called N Dubz and an X Factor judge. She shares her story and others in this documentary, of young carers who’s parents had suffered with mental health, and how it can have a growing impact on young peoples lives.

This video was uploaded by Katie Thornton.

It makes me think of Henry, when he grows up, I hope he doesn’t have to be my carer when I am older, or will he suffer the same as he grows to have feelings and emotions.

I hope you find this video inspiring too, and let me know of videos and stories that you have found inspiring, I would be interested to find out.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Isolation

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Wasn’t sure where I wanted to write this blog, but I felt I needed to add it to this site, as when we are trying to conquer our goals, the one thing that can stop us is isolation. We can often feel like we aren’t part of society and alone.

When I feel isolated the one thing I do is get out of the house and go for a walk. The worst thing you can do is to stay in doors, home alone. Getting out is important, as isolation usually means you need a new environment, and space.

Feeling isolated can lead us to feeling depressed, so getting out will help stop the cobwebs, which is what I call depressive thoughts, from emerging.

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If you do get invited out, unless there is trouble getting to somewhere, take up the invite and go.

Isolation means you need to be with people, and you probably find that they too have felt isolated and alone, all they needed just like you, a friend.

If someone does talk to you, give them acknowledgement, instead of trying to ignore them.

It is so easy at times to isolate yourself especially if you are a new mum for example, but this is where meeting other mums for example, can really help. Knowing you aren’t alone in feeling like you a walking meal on tap, as from my own experience, as much as I love my son I did feel often like a walking cow.

Getting out is important for isolation and a new environment can really do the trick.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Handling Anger

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You go about your day happy as Larry, we sometimes call it, when people are content with their life, then suddenly someone barges you out of the way as if you aren’t there, you start to feel your mood change. You now feel as if someone has seen that you were having a good day, and peed all over it. “Thanks, that’s just great” you rage in your head”.

Now you feel your day is ruined. You feel there is no going back to feeling happy and you’re still playing the incident over in your head. You make it worse than what it is.

Can you get over it?

YES YOU CAN

I have been reading a book about anger because I knew it was something I needed to address. My mum says that “There is no point being angry as the only person who is angry is you”.  That is true.

“That person who has bumped into you without a “Sorry” isn’t gonna care, so why should you?”

It is a waste of energy. I no I get wound up, at times, but learning to control it is the key.

Stepping away, and taking yourself out of that situation, just to reason and think about it before reacting can help put a handle on your blowing a fuse.

If we shout at the person who pushed you out of the way, what would they do?

Do you want confrontation, no I hate that. I just want the person to see that pushing me out of the way isn’t acceptable. The person is too busy wanting to rush to wherever they heading, but I am sure if they played it back, or it happened to them, they would feel differently.

Reasoning sometimes is too quick, so saying something like, “You can say excuse me and I will move out your way or careful please” so making them acknowledge what they just did is good because I am sure we have all been in a rush and not meant to but accidentally bumped into someone, the worse thing is when they don’t acknowledge it, but I am sure if you do say something, not stroppy but so they see, the majority of people would be mortified and will say sorry, if they don’t it’s their problem not yours.

They may not react in the way you want or give you the response your want, but I do feel when people do that it is subconscious, and not a conscious thing they meant to do. They’re to busy caught up in their travels, so what is the point of being angry?

They aren’t the slightest bit interested in you to let it spoil their day so why let it spoil yours.

How many of us have flown off the handle, when looking back it was minor. Me and my hubby had an argument over a plate of chips and a draw once. Writing that down seems so daft, and I still think “What was that really about?” How could it have been avoided.

Well at the time my hubby was trying to give up smoking and so was suffering with cravings, so perhaps I could have been more understanding, instead of thinking he was making a personal attack, and he had a point.

Why would I be happy to share a plate of chips but not share a draw, as we both lived there, and where we were living at the time, we wasn’t exactly spoilt for room.

Most arguments and anger can be avoided, if we took some time to breath and think about it before reacting.

At dinner times with my son, there have been many tantrums and tears, including myself wanting to throw a tantrum.

Looking back and even now if he isn’t hungry enough he will kick up a stink to sit down and eat his dinner. At nursery and in the mornings, come breakfast time he is fine with sitting up at the table.

Those moments do pass, and my tip is, is to not make a meal out of it, but try to create calm before the storm, and that can be playing some peaceful music, or get them to sit and watch a bit of TV to let them know dinner is coming and so time to settle down to eat.

I have lost the plot at times when he has kicked off wanting a tantrum of my own, so the best way is to step away and then come back even if it just for a minute, just to breath and think about.

So tips to controlling your rage;

  1. Breath and think it, view it, counting to 10
  2. Learn to be mindful and enjoy nature, taking yourself out of the normal everyday can really help with the everyday hustle and bustle
  3. Think before you speak and remember that if it is second incident whilst out, the chances of you seeing the people who have caused you to rage are slim, so breath and remember the words “Not worth it”
  4. Listen to some soft music or take yourself out of the situation
  5. Be reasonable, you never know what someone else is going through or where they need to be going, so take reason as I am sure they didn’t mean to make you angry. No one has that attention, no one wakes up to make someone angry so try to be reasonable before reacting
  6. Let the anger seep through, this is where breathing and being mindful can really help.
  7. Never allow it to build up as it will be like a pressure cooker and over boil, so acknowledge, address and think it through
  8. Never allow it to take over and journal, if these emotions of anger are getting you down and controlling your life. Anger can have a funny way of turning our minds and making things to be more than what they really are
  9. Communicate effectively, shouting doesn’t always get your point across, so say it with stern so the person knows they have done wrong but not in an aggressive manner as it could turn
  10. Be wise and if it is a friend who has upset you, approach with calm. Think about what to say before you say it, but do let them know they have upset you. The worse thing I have done is attacked first and thought about it afterwards. Somethings are best left unsaid until the storm blows over, but never leave it for too long as once it passes as it can be a different to when you say it at the time
  11. Reflect
  12. Grab a cushion or a pillow and let your rage come out
  13. Once you learn how to handle your anger and emotions then you can put them into practice of other emotional feelings, such as frustration, which can lead to feeling angry, fear and anxiety. Get in touch with your emotions and yourself will help you to feel so much better, and gain back control.

So next time you feel angry or the pressure rising, take perspective and remember it won’t last forever.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X