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Fighting back against bullying

14 Friday Dec 2018

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Here is a brilliant blog shared by aeisenbe

https://bullyinglte.wordpress.com/author/aeisenbe/

It gives details of what to do if you are being bullied and tips on how to handle your bully.

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Here is a link to a PDF which shows an example of a Bullying policy, which you should have in an employment contract or handbook. In schools it is in usually in the school handbook they give you when you first start school, all parents should read the schools policies to check.

http://www.acas.org.uk/…/Bullying_and_harassment_employer_2010-accessibl…Sometimes it is what the eyes don’t see that can really be frightening when you find out that your child or a friend at work is being bullied. They can become withdrawn, isolate themselves as protection, continuously anxious and worrying, anything bad happens they can overreact because of the torment that bullying does. If you don’t see what is happening then it is hard to take action, but if you have any fear or worries that someone you know is being bullied, encourage them to take action, and speak out. Also tell them you are there for them should they need support and a shoulder to cry on. 

Bullying can happen anywhere and it happened to me at school and then when I was working, and witnessed bullying too. It can be an awful experience and it feel like it’s never going to change. That is why you need to speak out and get help. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

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Have No Regrets

14 Tuesday Apr 2015

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To help build your self confidence and to feel better about yourself is to stop having regrets about things. What ifs and the if only’s.

Not one person can turn back the clock, but you can change your future. I was a person who looked back and would regret times in my past, but now I see what I can achieve each day by,

1. Looking back and putting my past in perspective, seeing that I have done a lot in my past by breaking it up and really looking deeper into my past. Looking at the good and the bad, and making the happy times and my achievements bigger and the bad memories smaller so I can no longer see these images.

2. Seeing that I can alter the things in my life in a drop of a hat taking myself out of my comfort zone and instead of saying I will one day, I say I will now. I look at what I can do today, tomorrow, in a week, month and within the year.

3. Keeping a journal of all the things that have made me happy each day, to store memories about my son as he continues to grow and develop. Learning how I can help improve my relationships with people close to me. Making sure I spend time with family and friends.

4. How I can help other people and learn from others. Being inspired by other people, so I can inspire people too.

5. Being committed to the people most close to me, my job at work and at home.

6. Making the most of each day. Not putting too much pressure on myself but making sure I do get things done.

7. By being creative and making the most of all the things around me.

8. Know my priorities and to continue building myself as a person.

9. By being ruthless if it isn’t important in my life it goes.

10. By setting myself challenges.

THERE IS NOT POINT TO REGRETS THEY ONLY LEAD TO FEELINGS OF SELF LOATH AND UNHAPPINESS. LOOK AROUND AND SAY TO YOURSELF WHAT CAN I ACHIEVE TODAY? WHAT WILL MAKE ME HAPPY TODAY?

You are worth being happy and to feel good about yourself, you deserve it and go for it. If you want to change your life around and feel better about yourself then do it, because it has to come from within and from no one else.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

The Fear Of Being Bullied again

18 Wednesday Feb 2015

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Once you have been bullied you always have that fear of it happening again. Since being a victim of bullying myself I have learned how to spot the signs of a bully by their body language, how they progressively change; do they let the whole world know when you have done something they have not been happy with? Or told everyone around them when your backs been turned and purposely not done something and blamed you for the mistake or something they were supposed to do but didn’t?

They may put on a front at first and be all nice to you, but as soon as you start settling in at school or work, the behaviour and character starts to waiver and change. They may start by nit picking on things, by commenting on your personal image, they may start to act different in front of certain people when they are talking to you; do they pull faces as they are speaking you?

It doesn’t matter whatever level the person is, weather it is a school pupil, another colleague or if you feel a teacher or a manager is coming across as aggressive, confrontational as if they want to intimidate you then this can be the beginnings of a bully’s behaviour. If you come across anyone starting to make you feel isolated, spreading rumours or making you feel uncomfortable then you have the right to speak out and take action.

Let the bullies know you are not going to stand for the way they are being towards you, or rise to their level of abuse or wrong behaviour. You do not have to sit their in silence and you do have the right to tell them, that they are being wrong and you wish to do a good job but their behaviour towards you is effecting you from doing a good job, and if it continues you will take action to stop it from happening.

Here is a blog I am subscribed to which also talks about bullying, from someone who has also been targeted by bullies.

https://bullyinglte.wordpress.com/author/aeisenbe/

It also has tips on how to handle someone who is bullying you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Tips for those who are being bullied

05 Thursday Feb 2015

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If you are a victim of bullying then have no fear, and please you deserve to be treated with respect by people and no one has the right to bully you.

It can have a massive impact on someone’s confidence, I know I have been there and I am so glad I did fight back and I didn’t allow it to control my life. You must not allow it to control yours either.

The way of stopping these bullies is to close the barrier on them and report what they are doing, otherwise if it isn’t you, it is more than likely to happen to someone else. Bullies usually will have issues of their own, which is no excuse and for them to understand that what they are doing is unacceptable you have the right to stand up to them. An easy way is to say “No you will not treat me this way” and take action by reporting it to your teachers or to your employer.

See my directory of websites set up to help those who are a victim of bullying or you know someone in your family or a friend who is being bullied. The thing about bullying it can upset the people around you too, as they can fill helpless and they want to fight back on your behalf but they worry because of the worse implications on you. They wish to protect you, but don’t want to make things worse.

See link of this Directory https://everyonecanbuildacastle.wordpress.com/related-sites/

So please fight back. I would encourage anyone who has been a victim of bullying to talk about it as it is the only way we will make people, schools, the communities, and companies know what it is going on, and more action needs to be taken.

Please see link to a page where I have put a link to an example of a bullying Policy which is your evidence to say to your school, college or company that “I am being bullied and it states in this, the action that will be taken when bullying is reported, and so I wish to do that and I wish for it to stop”.

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Many thanks for your time, and for reading,

Carrie X