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13 Questions To Help Reflect on 2018 and plan for 2019

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Check out this blog post by Sophie Cliff, about 13 Questions To Help Reflect on 2018 and plan for 2019.

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I always like to reflect on the year just gone and practicing these questions has made look back on 2018 in a different light. Now I am looking forward to 2019.

I hope you enjoy reading and trying out these questions.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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Rise and Shine! 5 ways to make mornings more tolerable

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Check out this article on Bloglovin on 5 ways to make mornings more tolerable.

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It talks about how to make mornings a lot easier then just getting out of bed feeling like you want to crawl back into bed and stay there.

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7 Morning Habits That can Change your life

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I found these habits on Pinterest, and really good habits to get into to change your mornings for the better.

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Fighting back against bullying

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Here is a brilliant blog shared by aeisenbe

https://bullyinglte.wordpress.com/author/aeisenbe/

It gives details of what to do if you are being bullied and tips on how to handle your bully.

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Here is a link to a PDF which shows an example of a Bullying policy, which you should have in an employment contract or handbook. In schools it is in usually in the school handbook they give you when you first start school, all parents should read the schools policies to check.

http://www.acas.org.uk/…/Bullying_and_harassment_employer_2010-accessibl…Sometimes it is what the eyes don’t see that can really be frightening when you find out that your child or a friend at work is being bullied. They can become withdrawn, isolate themselves as protection, continuously anxious and worrying, anything bad happens they can overreact because of the torment that bullying does. If you don’t see what is happening then it is hard to take action, but if you have any fear or worries that someone you know is being bullied, encourage them to take action, and speak out. Also tell them you are there for them should they need support and a shoulder to cry on. 

Bullying can happen anywhere and it happened to me at school and then when I was working, and witnessed bullying too. It can be an awful experience and it feel like it’s never going to change. That is why you need to speak out and get help. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Building Self Confidence

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Mirror mirror on the wall who is the greatest of them all.

When we look in the mirror what do you see, what do we think of ourselves and what would we change.

I hear you answer everything, I hate myself, I hate my boobs, my hair, my body, it is ugly and not what I imagine myself looking.

I can relate to this so much as I would in the passed go through those thoughts and feelings when I looked at myself in the mirror. I did develop and eating disorder, and it did bring me down to the point I felt sometimes perhaps I am better of not being in this world at all.

However you can get over these feelings, like I have by learning and saying to yourself “No more I am not going to allow these feelings of hatred towards myself anymore”

I got to the point where I was sick of feeling low and disliking myself that I decided “Right I am going to do something about this” and I have. No one in this world is perfect but everyone has strengths and everyone has weaknesses and it is how you take on challenges in your life that can make a difference. It is OK not to know everything or have everything in life, as I like not knowing sometimes, it is the unknown that can excite us and make us surprised that once we entered the unknown we can find surprises and things we have always wanted. The not having everything you want can help make you stronger by aiming towards these things, but it will take commitment, but think about the goals you want in life and go for them.

When I got married for example I hadn’t really had many serious relationships, so even though we had been together for 4 years before we wedded I had no idea really of what I was getting myself into, and I bet my husband had know idea too. I remember him continuously saying before we got married “It won’t change anything really as we already spend a lot of time together anyway” I am not sure if he was meaning this or trying to tell himself, but no one knows what being married to someone is like until they actually get married. My husband even admits that even though you think marriage won’t change a relationship it does.

So when getting married it was entering the unknown but now I am on the other side, it has been a rollercoaster at times, but we are still together and that has lead to amazing surprises, that I have the gift of love, I enjoy giving love to someone I can have a laugh with and be friends with aswell as being married to the person I had chosen, and now we have the best gift of all, a child.

This has helped me with my confidence, along with writing and exercise. I remember doing that first run, I felt like my throat was going to fall out, and my legs were gone give way, it was extremely hard, but with time and commitment I now run as if I have run all my life.

So with building confidence comes commitment, learning, making those lifestyle changes that can lead you to the unknown but will surprise and help bring you better confidence.

You will be surprised at what you can achieve when you put your heart and mind into it.

So I will support you all the way and lets get cracking.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

10 Steps to instant calm

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At some time or other we can often feel stressed and anxious. I know I do on a regular basis. 

There are ways to stay calm, check out this article below of tips on how to instantly be calm. 

https://www.realbuzz.com/articles-interests/health/article/10-steps-to-instant-calm/

What I do is journal on weekly and daily basis, and right out plan of action to help push to worries aside. 

How do you stay calm? I would love to hear from you. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

How to make Better Decisions

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Check out this Article on Realbuzz, about How to Make Better Decisions. 

https://www.realbuzz.com/articles-interests/health/article/how-to-make-better-decisions/

Life is about making decisions, sometimes we choose the wrong path, and realised that it was a bad decisions, but life is about learning, and as you get older the decisions as long as you ask the right questions can become a lot easier to make.

Doing Things Differently

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As we begin to get older our thoughts and beliefs can change, it can be due to changes that had occurred along the way. For example when we are teenagers we become more aware of our surroundings and our thoughts and fears. 

Being in a accident, or someone close to you died suddenly. That’s what happened to me when I was working at a holiday resort and one of our friends one morning hadn’t turned up for work, which was very unlike him, he was always there. We had gone for a drink with him the night before, and next morning he was dead. He died of adult cot death. 

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It totally changed my outlook on life and made me see how quickly how life can be whisked away from you, and it made me make changes in my life, because I knew if I didn’t I would still be stuck in a rut, and I needed to get out of that.

It made me see that sometimes you can’t always choose the path you want to go, as Nigel our friend who sadly died, just one morning went to sleep and didn’t wake up. 

Working for the holiday camp had changed my life too, it made me become more independent and I had to defend for myself, and it made me learn to stand on my own two feet. It could be tough and times, and when I first got there I wanted to come home, but once I found my feet I managed to start a new life for myself and I met my now husband. 

It made me understand that change is often good and learning from my husband has made me see things differently too, like for example focusing on one thing at a time, instead of trying to do two things at once.  

When unexpected events happen it can make you see how much time we take for granted, and it is important as I have learned as I have gotten older to accept the different things that happen in my life, and it just means you have to take a different path. 

I know when there is a new chapter to begin a I can feel inside my body and mind. I start to feel like I am stuck in a rut again, and we all need change in our lives, that’s what makes our world go round. I believe now that if something is not working, time for change and a new chapter. 

So seeing things differently is okay because life is about learning and understanding ourselves as well as others.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Obstacles (jumping hurdles)

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Life is about facing many obstacles and when I think of that I think of jumping hurdles, and some obstacles can become a lot harder than others. For example, you want to build your career, but there may be child care costs to think about or you notice people not being kind to you at work, because they resent what you are trying to do, and this puts you off.

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If it is people trying to knock you over, than rise above it and let them deal with those feelings, as its not your problem its theirs.

write down your fears and what is stopping you to change a habit or make life change that you know will benefit you in the long run.

What is worrying you?

What’s the worse thing that can happen?

Be honest with yourself, and what bad habits are stopping you from achieving your dreams.

I have recently chosen a different career path and working in various nurseries, but I am starting to feel is this for me? Should I stick with it or go for something else?

Those are my obstacles I am facing at the moment, and I know that I will come to a decision whether this career change is for me or not. What has helped me is keeping a list of Pros and Cons, and I am in the meantime going to look for something else and decide from there, where is my next move is going to be.

Sometimes you have to alter your dreams and goals, and that is ok, taking a different route can help. Facing those hurdles head on is the key and not to be afraid just take each path in your stride and you will soon be able to jump those hurdles with no problems at all.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Goal setting

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For me goal setting is the key to success and I truly believe that, and I have proven to myself that I can achieve goals I set out for myself. For example I set myself a goal to write everyday and I have done that, and now it’s become a daily habit for me, weather it is writing a blog, a book or a journal.

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For me goal setting helps drive myself forward and helps keep the mind in a positive light as much as possible. Don’t get me wrong I still get down days, but I try to do something positive each day, check out this video I watched today about how to Crush Your Goals and be Successful, by Myka Stauffer.

Goal setting can be done through the year, not just in the new year and should be life changing goals. Check out my blog where I talk about life changes.  

Goals that will  benefit you in the long run, that does mean getting yourself out of your comfort zone and being courageous and spontaneous. 

Separate your goals, into personal, relationships, career, financial, social and spiritual. 

I always wanted to do something I never thought I could do, to prove to myself what I am capable of and I feel I have done that, I wanted to be a football coach and I did it, I wanted to win the dancing cup for the highest marks and I got it, through hard work and it continues on, and setting goals helps keep my passions and myself alive.

So set those goals and feel proud of yourself for achieving those goals. Don’t feel disheartened if they don’t work out or you don’t get the results you were expecting, just keep driving forward and you will get to where you want to be in life and believe in everything you do is a success. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X